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|Sunday, January 9th, 2011|
|Monday, January 3rd, 2011|
Ok so a bit of background.. I'm 21 years old, had two girlfriends when I was younger (but no sexual experience) and have had several relationships with men since (all sexual). I've always been attracted to both, as believe love sees no gender.
My current girlfriend, who is 20, from what I know so far, has had very little sexual experience with men but absolutely no experience with women up till now besides the odd internet girlfriend. She identifies herself as a lesbian.
We've been together for a few weeks, still getting to kbow eachother and haven't had sex yet or even kissed much - but still very much enjoy cuddling up to eaxhother and stroking eachothers skin all night, which to me feels quite intinatw in itself. We'd had a few drinks yesterday and she seemed upset after we had a jokey conversation about said friends sex life. My lady revealed, after me much persisting for her to tell me what was up, that she felt like she couldn't give me what i wanted.. and I asked what she meant and she said that she has zero sex drive and doesnt know why and that she felt like a freak, and quickly said its not going to ever NOT happen as she has had some experiences withmen, but that each time it did nothing for her. She was quite upset and so I didn't ask more about it - just that I'm with her because I want to be, and that sex isn't a priorirt because I like her so much - which is all true.
We are both very nervous and awkward people, but i know she is more so. My experiences with men haven't been all that great - but I still consider myself to have a high sex drive as I like the thought of it, and whenever she's near me I want nothing more than to get intimate qith her and make her feel good. I'm now panicking that she hasn't felt the same towards me, or may have felt slightly pushed - as whenever i try and put my tongue in her mouth its never met with hers. It's not a priority logically, but sexually - for me - it is. I'm hoping its just nerves as I don't understand how she cpuld initially be attracted to me if she doesn't fancy me.. especially as we don't know eachother all that well..... And i know she finds it very difficult to trust people, especially due to having a violently abusive father. I care about her a lot, and I know this post sounds very sex-orientated.. but this is all very new to me, especially being with someone who could potentially asexual rather than lesbian.
I guess I'm looking for some opinions on this and/or some advice!! :)
|Saturday, January 1st, 2011|
Hi, I'm new to LJ and this community...
I'm cornered right now in my life. Not a lot of people are very accepting to the fact that I'm a lesbian... ^^;
I needed a place to come to where I could just be me. For who and what I am.
I really wanted to meet friends and new people here, cause I'm pathetically lonely... XD
I live in C. Falls MT... so as you know, there aren't a lot of people here, and so far, MOST of the people I know here aren't accepting of me. Which I'm totally okay with, everyone has their opinions, but they don't treat me equally...so that's where it kind of hurts. Y'know?
I'm not really good at opening up right away, but I'm always open to meet new people and such.
:) Current Mood: awake
|Thursday, June 24th, 2010|
What to do?
Ok so i have been feeling depressed and out of place. i dont have much friends to talk to anymore and im starting to lose it. What can i do so i wont have to feel so depressed and lonely? I tried talking to girls and im really nice friendly and love to spoil them but nothing works :( Should i just give up? i know i shouldnt but things are going so wrong lately and im feeling how i felt 2 years ago and it is not a good posiiton to be at. What is there to do?!! ='[ Current Mood: depressed
|Monday, January 11th, 2010|
Name: Mikaila (Kay)
Location: Califorina, USA
Hi everyone *waves*
My name is Kay, and I am new to this community.
I am 19 years old, and I am a college student.
I live in a really small town located in the central valley of California.
I want to expand my circle of friends - people who I can be honest with.
I'm a nice person, I swear ^__^
I have just recently come to the conclusion that I am a lesbian.
It is quite a thing to accept, and I am not entirely out to my family yet.
I've mentioned it to my mother, but she is pretty much in denial about the whole thing and doesn't talk about it much.
We avoid the situation at all costs.
I am an avid writer, and I enjoy getting to know others with the same hobby ^__^
|Monday, November 16th, 2009|
I am feeling kind of silly at the moment, but in a good way.
I need to communicate, and at this point LJ is my best resource. I only recently came out. (and only partially, telling only my closest friends and my brother)
Please feel free to add me.
:) Current Mood: hopeful
|Monday, November 2nd, 2009|
|Saturday, October 31st, 2009|
Comic Book Review: Likewise by Ariel Schrag
The fourth chapter/third book in Ariel Schrag's 'High School Chronicles,' Likewise
details not only Schrag's senior year at Berkeley High, but also the aftermath of her parents' divorce, her search for a "scientific" explanation for her homosexuality, her continued heartbreak over her boy-crazy ex-girlfriend, her do-or-die devotion to her comics, and her self-image as it relates to her appearance and intelligence. That Schrag is able to do all of this with a wit and wisdom that makes her constant contradictions completely credible is quite an accomplishment.( Read more...Collapse )
|Tuesday, October 13th, 2009|
Please take this survey to help other lesbian moms!
My name is Sequoia and I am a graduate student in Counseling Psych and a lesbian. As part of a GLBT course I am researching lesbian parenting; both so that I can help lesbian couples as a counselor, and in preparation of my own parenting goals eventually. I want to include some women’s voices as part of my paper so that it is not just about dry research. I am collecting these perspectives through an online survey, and then I will include snippets in my paper. Everything will be anonymous and only used in this paper.
Here is the link to the survey: http://tinyurl.com/yfz4e3h
This survey is to get personalized, subjective opinions and experiences about the decision-making and interpersonal process of lesbian couples who became planned parents through donor insemination.
To complete this survey, please make sure that you match the following criteria:
- you identify as a woman-who-loves-exclusively-women, regardless of the term you choose to use.
- you and another woman decided to become parents through using donor insemination (not adoption, not from previous relationship, etc) such that either you or your partner became pregnant and the intention is to raise the child together as co-mothers.
Feel free to answer as many or as few questions as you feel comfortable, with as much or little detail as you like.
This survey will be used in a graduate counseling paper, not in formal research. The results will all be anonymous.
Thank you so much for your participation and your inspiration!
|Tuesday, July 14th, 2009|
|Tuesday, June 2nd, 2009|
|Monday, January 19th, 2009|
|Saturday, January 3rd, 2009|
hello my name is becky my partner and i are new to this group and are from nc we wanted to find a group to find some new people to talk to we have been together for over 3 years now we had a handfasting done in michigan but i am going to go for now so hope to hear from you all soon
becky & amy Current Mood: cheerful
|Tuesday, December 23rd, 2008|
Diversity Lesson 101: LGBT/Queer Little People
Little People like LGBT people are considered "freaks of nature", they get stares and people misunderstand them. In looking for resources for Little LGBT People, I found virtually nothing. I decided, to make an entry to educate people about little people as well as provide as much info as I can for LGBT Little People. It is my sincere hope that LGBT Little People can find solace, comfort and community and that they can begin to network and build a foundation and support system for their own sub-section of the community.
For more info and resources on LGBT Little People, check out:http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2008/12/diversity-lesson-101-lgbtqueer-little.html
|Thursday, October 30th, 2008|
|Thursday, October 23rd, 2008|
Might the "Bradley Effect" Also Hold True for Queer Issues?
Today's open forum is set to examine whether we may see something similar to the "Bradley effect" on queer issues in the upcoming election.
"The Bradley effect, less commonly called the Wilder effect, is a proposed explanation for observed discrepancies between voter opinion polls and election outcomes in some American political campaigns when a white candidate and a non-white candidate run against each other. Named for Tom Bradley, an African-American who lost the 1982 California governor's race despite being ahead in some voter polls, the Bradley effect refers to an alleged tendency on the part of some voters to tell pollsters that they are undecided or likely to vote for a black candidate, and yet, on election day, vote for his/her white opponent." (Wikipedia)
The "Bradley Effect" was a shocking dose of reality about the inconsistency of polls to determine how truthful people are about their voting decisions. It also went on to show the racial implications of the governor's race.
While it is now 26 years later, the notion of a "Bradley Effect" has resurfaced because Barack Obama, a bi-racial candidate is running for president of the United States of America. It is interesting to ponder whether people are indicating they will vote for the democratic ticket while in private will vote against it because of the racial implications.
I also wonder whether this can be applied to certain LGBT issues up on the ballot this Nov. 4th. There are marriage amendments in California, Arizona, and Florida this year. There is also the question of a constitutional convention in Connecticut and a ban on adoption by unmarried co-habitating couples in Arkansas. All of these referendums hold major implications for Americans straight and gay.
People opposed to gay rights often argue that they "have gay friends" or are "not bigoted against gays." It has become increasingly unpopular to be associated with "homophobia." Is it possible there is a segment of the population that claims they will vote against these marriage amendments and in favor of LGBT rights while secretly espousing another point of view to hide their own fear of being labeled a bigot?http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2008/10/open-forum-can-queers-have-something.html
|Tuesday, October 14th, 2008|
|Friday, October 10th, 2008|
|Thursday, October 2nd, 2008|
Bob Barr for President - Gay & Lesbian Words Banned
In response to a Bob Barr for president blog entry
that stated that John McCain is possibly bipolar when it comes to the issues.
I responded asking if Bob Barr was bipolar and discussed his former position against same-sex marriage for gays and lesbians. Well apparently the Bob Barr site doesn't like the words, "sex", "gay", or "lesbian".
Not surprisingly "queer" made it through, although since this post they now banned that word as well.
Here is how the text showed up before moderator approval (Since that time the post has not been authorized and has been deleted).
You voted for the “defense of marriage act” to ban same-*** marriage equality throughout the country, and now say marriage is a states issue and nobody has the right to discriminate. You tried so hard to discriminate against *** and ******* couples. You will never get my vote, to me you are a bigot, plain and simple.http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2008/10/bob-barr-for-president-gay-lesbian.html
|Monday, September 22nd, 2008|